When woman knitters and crocheters leave out men knitters and crocheters.
When men complain about being excluded from the knitting&crocheting community/anything
I’m talking about how some people think that only woman can do…
I’ve been thinking about this for a few days now, and this is what I have to say about it. You’re probably a fine guy, this isn’t a personal attack. But I’m a sociologist/women’s study major/knitter so this is what I do. I also understand if you don’t want to read this/deal with this post anymore. But I have feelings and they must be written out!
1) Knitting was traditionally an upper class, masculine activity until women and lower class people started doing it. Then men decided they didn’t want to do it anymore, because being associated with feminine activities (which were apparently awful). So women didn’t make knitting exclusionary to men, men did.
2) I want knitting to be an inclusive activity too, for all genders. Ideally we would use they/them pronouns. But you can’t blame women for reacting to men’s sexism by assuming that most knitters are female.
3) Most of society defaults to male pronouns. So one community defaulting to female pronouns (when women are the large majority of knitters) is not a big deal.
4) I know that a large amount of men do knit. There are knitting programs for men’s prisons and male veterans with PTSD that are incredibly awesome, as knitting has a lot of mental and physiological benefits that should be available to everyone. And I think that it sucks that men can’t do ‘feminine’ activities without being teased about it. Sexism and the patriarchy hurt everyone.
5) I also wouldn’t compare metal working to knitting, since crafting and other ‘feminine’ activities are devalued in today’s society, while ‘masculine’ activities are regarded more positively. And consider that in many ‘feminine’ fields, such as cooking, men still earn more than women and are regarded positively for breaking gender norms, while women get paid less and are often harassed for entering male-dominated fields.
6) I understand that this is probably a bigger response than you anticipated. But I think that it is counterproductive to pout about he/him pronouns not being the default in knitting communities. Men literally are the default in the rest of society. And I have never encountered a knitter who didn’t want men learning how to knit/enjoying feminine crafts. I think that most knitters want an inclusive, welcoming, fluffy community for everyone.
7) That picture you attached was clearly intended to throw shade at women in the knitting community, and maybe that’s exactly why women wouldn’t be inclined to make the knitting community more welcoming to men. Maybe consider being nicer to the community you’re trying to join.
8) And in conclusion, perhaps instead of talking about how women crafters leave out men crafters in discussions, it would be more productive to discuss how to shift societal perceptions about what are feminine activities and what are masculine activities so that they can be inclusive to everyone. Complaining about the victims of sexism instead of the perpetrators of sexism is a waste of time, is entirely non-productive.